Step up to Common Ground

My Friend Rhonda and I have known each other since seventh grade homeroom. If you need a measure, that’s almost 40 years. There are few who have traveled so far with me, not many who know my story better…and no one who could be more my opposite. Rhonda and I stand pretty firmly at opposing... Continue Reading →


Having recently fallen apart myself, I reeked of paper and pencil dust when I told him there were days I was still surprised to find legs carrying me to the mailbox. His doctor told him to seek solace, connect with friends. Mine said simply: “Breathe” I’d been blessed to locate a lung without the heart... Continue Reading →

the slow migration of love

She tells me there is no escape from this. It’s in my genes. And while she goes on about brains and chemistry and the natural proclivity of species to procreate, I wonder… Do birds redefine the space between wings to accommodate a change in flight so late in the season? Do bees make sacrifices in... Continue Reading →

Am I good for you?

I had a chance to watch Jack Goes Boating this week - a fascinating portrayal of how people respond, react, and transform within relationships. The movie follows two couples. Clyde and Lucy are a seasoned, unhappily married couple whose relationship spirals downward in the course of the film. They have affairs, talk disrespectfully to each... Continue Reading →

6 Years? You’ve Come a Long Way Baby!

The first therapist I worked with loved to torment me with moments of silence. I say torment because, for many of us, sitting with that kind of Nothingness is difficult. We immediately want to fill Nothingness up—with Busyness or Somethingness or Stuffness. We like to fill Nothingness up with cookies! Cookies or cigarettes, alcohol, television,... Continue Reading →

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