Resistance is NOT Futile

I woke up this morning with a feeling of dread. Despite the abundance of good work, the anticipation of my new book, the arrival of a dear friend for a weekend visit, I knew there was something else lurking. The same dark anomaly that has been lurking for years now—yes, years, think about it.

When I woke up this morning, I knew that at some point in my day, at least once, whether intentional or not, I would be subjected to the reality of Donald Trump. Headlines yelling at me from my news sources, in my social media newsfeed, from the display in the checkout line—the enormity of what is happening is so loud and terrifying, I’ve developed a screaming whine in my ears that will not go away.

And that’s the scariest part—this is not going away. Not. Going. Away.

So the question is, what do we do with this? You can’t hide from it. Or run away. Ignore it. You have to face it. Do something about it. Cry. March. Scream.

And then go eat a gallon of ice cream. Or shoot yourself. Or something in the middle.

I showed up at the computer this morning determined to disconnect from social media for good, to train myself not to read the headlines anymore, to effectively stick my head in the sand and figure out how to breathe through my ass for the next four years.

But then this article caught my eye. And I read it. And I think you should too.

It’s called “How to Stay Outraged Without Losing Your Mind” by Mirah Curzer, a lawyer, feminist, and photographer. In it, she gives the following tips for being a strong resistor while maintaining your sanity:

1. Don’t Get Used to Trump — Get Away from Him
2. Focus Your Energy on One or Two Issues
3. Make Activism Fun
4. Take Care of the Basics

Please read these “Self-Care Lessons for the Resistance,” and then let’s roll up our sleeves, grab our lightsabers and get to work, shall we? I’ll courageously stay at the front lines with you…or go eat a hot fudge sundae, if that’s what is necessary for the cause.

Text ©2017, Jen Payne. IMAGE: by Hayley Gilmore,

17 thoughts on “Resistance is NOT Futile

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    1. if we all stick together, hope and courage will get us through. There is much I can’t do, after all I am not an American. But I CAN support, encourage and cheer y’all on!

    2. Thank you Jen. Hearing that helps. I have been struggling a bit with knowing what to do. This, your words, helps a lot.

  1. Yes Jen! So many of us are sad angry disturbed This is a government of “We the people” So we have to speak up, call senators & representatives. Join in & be heard. And Also write paper letters . And I am so SICK of the media focusing on unowho & his tweets etcetcetc It ‘s all a distraction From what is really happening …. Enuff for now X elizabeth

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    1. My friend in “exile” in TX will use this as a guide to a small group of women they are forming to take care of themselves as they resist. She is grateful.

  2. I think the old adage about changing the things you can change is more valid than ever. I’ve just resolved that I won’t allow the new administration to make me do anything I wouldn’t do, based on my own value system. Period. I guess the rest will have to sort itself out as we go along.

  3. Awesome. I applaud you. While I still am living life (going to work, hanging out with friends and family, reading, attending classes) I have also decided to make “be political” part of the new me. I wish I had stood up before. I wish I had been more outspoken. I wish I wish I wish. No more. I’m all action now, baby. Writing to my reps every day, calling my reps every day, emailing my reps every day.

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