It’s hard to believe it has been FIVE YEARS since I quit smoking. Five years, today!

It ranks in the Top Five of my proudest accomplishments, sharing space with starting a business, buying a house, visiting France, and writing a book. It is that big.

It is that big because it was not just about quitting smoking. Quitting smoking is not just about quitting smoking.

Quitting smoking is about making a commitment to being healthy — mind-body-spirit healthy — and deciding to change your lifestyle so completely that smoking is no longer an option.

Quitting smoking is about making peace with the empty space — and the fear, loneliness, sadness, and grief that tends to congregate there. Everyone has an empty space. Everyone. And nothing fills it up — not cigarettes or alcohol or shopping or sex…or even cookies. You just have to make peace with it.

Quitting smoking is about the long haul. It’s a marathon event that might be helped by pills or patches or programs, but in the wee hours of the morning, it’s just you and the long, quiet road ahead. You have to feel safe there.

Quitting smoking is about support. Friends and family and loved ones who support your effort 100%. Who don’t let you slide, cheat, reconsider. Who cheer you on with love and atta-girls and encouragement — the day you quit, the week you quit, the month you quit. And yes, even five years after you quit.

But ultimately? Ultimately, quitting smoking is about loving yourself enough. Finally.

To Fred, MaryAnne, Martha, Bob, Carol, Dale, the folks at K&G, Mary, Pamela, Rhonda, Stef, Steve, Tara, DeLinda, Melissa, Doreen, the wonderful women from my Sharing Circle, Dr. Brainerd, Dorothy, David Sedaris, Pat and Betty at CVS, and everyone who stood witness, I thank you from the bottom of my healing heart and lungs.

If you want to stop smoking, please read this book now.

16 Responses

  1. Margaret B. Dean

    Hi Jen,

    Congrats from Paris!!!

    As one who has been there …….I get it entirely.

    I am very proud of you!

    Bisous ❌❌❌



  2. Fabulous! A most difficult feat. Congratulations, Jen. Save this. Bookmark it. Reread it if the need arises. It’s a tough road to hoe. When I smoked, I could have eaten those sticks if it was at all possible. They try to break you. Apparently you’re stronger and smarter. ;-)

  3. Congratulations, Jen… A great accomplishment. And thanks for the book tip; I may have to get it. I never think I’m “ready,” but I might be.

    Love your posts, and how they all mean something to me…


  4. Melissa

    Congratulations, Jen! You are an inspiration. What a blessing it is to be SMOKE FREE!!!! As a former smoker, I know just what a truly big deal it is and how great it is to celebrate your anniversary! Yahooo!!

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